Well, I've scared off another one...

I seem to have a lot of trouble dating.

"Dating" for a night (or a few hours) I seem to handle with absolutely no problem- but anything much longer than a week and everything just sort of implodes. The most recent iron in the fire-- big dick boy (BDB for short)-- is cooling off rapidly.

It all started with the desperate 'booty call' that I placed shortly after my father and uncle had left my house. To be fair, I was very pent up after the weeks I'd had and needed some release. So I called BDB and left him a voice message detailing precicely how very pent up I was.

I didn't hear back.

Well- not until the email telling me that I had creeped him out and that all I seemed to want was sex and that wasn't him and he wanted more and if I was just all about sex then this wasn't going in the direction he wanted yadda yadda yadda. This coming from the guy who's every email to me has some sort of sexual innuendo in it. And also from the guy who has tried to poopstab me every time we're together- regardless whether I'm prepared for it or not.

Hmmmm. Methinks it was just the "I want to get out of this and this opportunity presented itself" email.

And then I went to Mexico and was out of the picture for a week, cooling things off even further. When we email or talk now, there is an awkwardness to it that wasn't there before.

No big whoop, though. I can deal. What's funny though, is that as much as everyone thinks I'm all about the sex, I much more tend to be the guy that loves to sit on the couch (with another guy) eat pizza and watch tv- with the occasional cuddle thown in. Heck, I only jack off 3 or 4 timea a week- its not like I'm "All Sex- All the Time" or anything. Of course not-alone-sex is a good thing, but after about 8 pm at night, I'm in the 'gettin' ready to go to sleep' zone.

My sex zone is definitely from about 3pm to 7 pm. I don't like sex early in the morning or late at night (unless I can be assured of plenty of uninterrupted sleeping-in the next day). Early morning I'm cranky and need coffee. After 8pm I want to watch TV and relax-- sometimes sex is just too much fucking work right before bed!

Oh, and waking me up in the night for sex is RIGHT OUT. I hate that- and its an excellent way for the 'waker' to lose an appenadge.

Another thing- I am a fan of the quickie. All the pleasure, none of the time... that sort of deal. "Me love you long time" sessions are ok for me on occasion, but once again-- a lot of fucking work. I'd rather do it three times in two hours with breaks than one, three-hour tour. I think BDB leaned more toward the latter.

Anywoo- after a few tentative emails and explanations of our viewpoints and a few brief phone conversations, I can tell its over with BDB. Not COMPLETELY over, but definitely in the stage of "I'll call you later" and then not calling later. Or ever.

Its a shame too--- the penis was rather nice.